I'm Done

"Think twice" is a great and well-known saying, but there's an underlying message there ... I'd like to say ONLY think twice - not 3 times, not 10 times. Think twice and then do it or don't.

It's 2018. I don't want to waste another moment overthinking crap. I have three babies that are going to be grown in a blink of an eye. I don't want to waste my time and energy conscientiously contemplating my every move. Because guess what else? Planning, writing stuff on a calendar, obsessing over the right way to do something, asking myself constantly if I'm doing the right thing ... I've done it for too much of my adult life.

I've started peeling back layers of "shoulds" over the past few years and now I'm ready to see what life is like without them at all. Starting RIGHT NOW I'm letting go of shoulds and living the life I WANT. I am giving myself the authority to do so. Life is about choices and I'm going to start being more decisive.

This is me in 2018:

I AM DECISIVE
I AM FLEXIBLE
I LOVE
I AM AT PEACE
I FEEL ALL EMOTIONS
I AM A BEACON OF JOY
I AM MY HUSBAND'S UNCONDITIONAL LOVER AND SOUL MATE
I AM A PART OF THE DIVINE MOTHER
I AM SPONTANEOUS
I LAUGH TOO MUCH (AND IT'S GOOD)
I AM HONEST
I AM OPEN
I AM ALLOWED TO HAVE SECRETS THAT ARE JUST BETWEEN ME AND GOD
MY MOUTH IS AN INSTRUMENT THAT CREATES MY TRUTH
I LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES (SOMETIMES NOT THE FIRST TIME ...)
I HURT AND I CRY
I AM A HAPPINESS GURU
I FULLY EMBRACE MYSELF

(and then she thought to herself "that's all I have, but I feel like I should write a good ending." And then she thought "you know what? It's fine how it is.")

Think twice.. But don't overthink it.

Peace ✌️

Tips to Increase "likes" and GENUINE Page Traffic on Facebook

[guest post] By: Kolie Dee

I read somewhere that a really low # of people you invite to "like" your Facebook page will actually do it ...somewhere around 10-15%, I think it was. However, about 95% of the people I've invited have "liked"/"followed".

I only started my Facebook account last spring, and I started it primarily for networking with people in my online university (Mom Mastery University (MMU)...where I met our favorite "The Laid-Back Homemaker!), people in my music academy, and other networking needs.

I originally reached out to the people I saw were the most proactive in MMU since they are the largest source of encouragement, support, and networking from that group.
After I created my group page, I invited everyone, and most of them accepted.

I think your profile pic is SO IMPORTANT! A fun pic can be great, but I think it's important if you're using facebook for networking, to use a pic that really suits/fits what you want people to see about you. i.e. my pic was professionally taken, and I think it shows I'm not the (pardon the crude term, but spacing a better phrase right now) "average joe" just taking a picture with my guitar...that I'm on a professional level with what I do. I know for a fact that my pic makes people curious, and has brought numerous people by to "friend" me out of curiosity.

Now that I have an "established" main Facebook account, whenever I "friend" someone, I always send a genuine message.

After they accept my request, THEN Facebook shows their name in people I can invite to my page. (When on your page, you will find a section that has the headline "Community".  Right under that, you'll click "Invite your friends to like this page".  Then scroll to your new "friend".  *I always check the box that says, "Invite in messenger".) 
I send a link from my page IMMEDIATELY to "like" it as soon as I see they accepted my friend request. This way they're immediately able to learn more about me by going to my page, so I think "curiosity" because I'm a new person to them gets them to click my link, and I'm sure everyone has that side of thinking they are a new friend and don't want to be "rude" by not clicking (though honestly, I've only had 1 person not "like", and I really don't think they're rude! lol).

Similarly IF SOMEONE SENDS ME A FRIEND REQUEST:

I pm them, and send them some sort of friendly, genuine "Welcome to my page!" message of sorts, but nothing too wordy.
After I've sent a "welcome" message, and approved their request, then I know they will show up on my group page in the "invite friends" section. I immediately do so. I have yet to have someone not "like"/"follow" promoting my page this way.

Also, as good etiquette, and for the sake of real networking, I let them know I love networking and ask th em if they have a page. If they do I always "like"/"follow", and genuinely check out their page and interact as time allows on it. Hope this helps! I would love to hear from you if you think this helped you! All feedback is welcome! 

Kolie Dee
Singer, Songwriter, Speaker, and Mental Health Advocate. 
Kolie Dee Facebook page

I Have Two Words For 2018


My New Year resolution is to be aware & perceptive

Anyone who has watched my latest vlog (above) already knows that. But I was getting to thinking ... By saying that, I am pretty much admitting that I have been the opposite of aware & perceptive.

I thought the opposite of aware & perceptive were unaware & unperceptive. But when I Googled their antonyms, the results showed me that the opposite is ignorant & obtuse. 😔

I don't want to believe that I've been ignorant & obtuse. So I looked for another answer. Upon digging further in Thesaurus.com, I found that aware & perceptive have a common antonym of an antonym - it's inattentive.

And it's true; I've been inattentive. I've been so distracted by my own thoughts that I haven't been paying attention to my actions.
It's fun to be spontaneous, but it's not fun to pay the consequences for impulsive behavior. 😔

In 2017, I yelled at my kids, I said negative and rude things to my husband, I said plenty of negative things to plenty of others, I stayed up late (and slept in) too many times, I bought too many things than we really needed, and I let my emotions control me.

2018 is the year I only yell my kids' names (hey, baby steps), I think before I say something, I make a "routine" that works for me instead of trying routines that feel like work, I think before I act more, and I decide how I respond to tough situations.

I thought my two words of the year were going to be "aware & perceptive" but they're not.

My two words for 2018 are:

Pay attention.

No more distractions, no more excuses, no more self-hate. ✌️ Peace. See you in 2018. ♥️

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What are your words for 2018? Or what do you think of the ones I chose? Tell me in the comments. I wanna know

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